and I was literally shocked at how much anger and aggressiveness was in her response. She said that it didn't make any logical sense to use they/them in english and they should either choose between he/she or make up their own pronouns (which I know exist). I literally sat with her for an hour trying to explain to her why, if someone prefers it and it makes them comfortable that she should for decency sake just use they/them. But she kept arguing that if they are one person she shouldn't have to use plural pronouns to describe them and she would only do that if they had multiple personalities disorders. And that reading stories about them would be difficult and not worth it.
I just feel like we are in no place to judge how others express their genders. Yes we are assigned sex at birth through our sexual organs but gender and gender expression are completely different things.
It just turned into this whole thing about other issues that my family has with the lgbt communities and brought in my gender expression. Is it wrong that I felt a tiny bit attacked? Like my heart was beating way hard in my chest and I can literally see the aggressiveness in her eyes ever time I blinked. I just don't understand why she acted in such an angry and fearful way. Like I get that as humans we are scared of things we don't understand, but being non-binary is something that she says she gets. So why is being uncomfortable for a while in conversation while getting use to someone's preferred pronouns so horrible. She got super loud and tried to figure out if I wanted her to refer to me in that "unlogical" way because of the way I want to express myself. I just didn't expect that from her and had no idea how to better explain/handle the situation. Does anyone have any helpful suggestions with how to handle the situation next time? ( I doubt she will let it die)?
Cielo
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